Separation. Life, routine, objects, plans, home and everything else that was shared. Avoiding clichés that, in this case, would be mere euphemisms for “positive affirmations” that have no meaning for one whose life has been turned upside down – and, because of this, would not only be out of place, but even cruel – the words that follow in this article are written to say that there’s still life, and it consists of beginning again, no matter how long it takes. Starting with the most practical part, which is your house. Yes, because in taking care of it in this new phase, you’ll find that it can take care of you, too.
Yes, because your house is, or should be, your refuge from everything. These words fit both those who moved house and those who had to, or chose to, stay in their old home after the separation. Although it’s the same house, it’s possible to resignify it by redecorating, in a construction from the inside to the outside. The same goes for those who move to a new house, but still need to rebuild themselves, both externally and internally.
Rediscovering the house
The first step? Discovering what you liked and what you merely accepted in your house. Furniture, pictures, paintings, and the distribution of all of this in their respective places. Change everything that bothers you, while, of course, respecting your financial and emotional “moment”. The feeling of a “new look” is, in fact, an important aspect of your new life.
Clearing up the atmosphere
To clear up the atmosphere and create a new routine that is not only organizational, give your house a good cleaning as soon as you’re up to it. The feeling of a clean house reflects the feeling of mental cleanliness and organization. To give the atmosphere a new sensation, give every room an aroma, and create a playlist, so that you have music around you whenever you’re at home. It’s important to choose music that is uplifting, avoiding anything that brings up bad memories.
Letting go
This takes us to the third step, which consists of learning to let go, pushing away the past. If the memory of an object is bad, give it to somebody else. Especially sheets, pillow cases and blankets, so give them away or sell them. There are specific sites for that, not only to help people in need, but also to get you money to buy new things for your house.
Transferring love
The end of a relationship doesn’t necessarily mean the end of a sentiment. If it’s impossible to extinguish what you feel, why not transfer it? This way, love can be redirected towards a pet or a plant. Yes! The act of caring for someone (or something) will make you direct you heart to whom (or what) surrounds you.
Decoration
A simple and inexpensive tip to change your surroundings is to repaint some of the walls in your house. And also change the art on the walls. Use the same picture frames, but change what’s inside them. If you have enough money, buy a new bed, a good mirror, and new furniture, according to your need for change.
